I am NO relationship expert and trust I don’t want to be, but I am a person. I am a woman. What I have noticed in my peers of late is confusion, misguidance, self doubt and poor understanding for who they are and what they want as individuals.
I need my women, young and old. To stand up and declare they love and respect and trust themselves enough to only want what is BEST for themselves so they can be the best in every other area of life.
As an individual…
A woman should be able to say: "I love & respect myself too much to settle for anything that isn’t good for me and doesn’t contribute to my growth"
Women you need to be honest with yourselves and that honesty has to be sustained… it MUST transition from yourself and be carried with you in every relationship and/or friendship.
When dealing with other people…
We have to be able to walk away and let go of things and people that deplete your spirit, leaving nothing worth salvaging in the wreck. The key to this is: “Knowing when to cut your losses … A skill people must learn”
It takes time to develop the skill but “learn to get out before it’s too late. [Master] the skill of weighing pros and cons…”
If necessary pull out paper and pen and make a list. It’s imperative that you [take] “all things into account and [make] the best decisions for yourself/well being.”
When dealing with other people (in a relationship setting) …
We NEED to be selfish in relationships; in choosing who we date and in taking “me time” (whether or not you’re single, married etc). Being dependent and too caring about the opposite sex’s feelings is what gets [WOMEN] in the psychological and emotional ruts that makes us settle for [unfitting] mates in the first place
Don’t be the woman or man to settle and wade in the swamp of emotional despair
because one part of you is fulfilled & everything else suffers.
When dealing with yourself … as a FEMALE/WOMAN
Stop being afraid of what you were born to be… FEMALE
I think a lot of woman react/respond to things in a way they think they are “supposed” to, not how they genuinely would/need to. It sounds funny but I think some women are scared of being just that… “A sometimes unbalanced emotional being”— Always pretending to be strong only weakens you, in my opinion.
Due to the stigma around emotionality; woman have abandoned their feelings. Afraid of being coined as …”crazy if we react the way we should…..or go with our first instinct”
This can be attributed to “men labeling us as crazy”… you know what ladies some of us are off our damn rockers… call it DNA
Call it what you want but the bottom line is: YOU CAN NOT LIVE YOUR LIFE BEING SOMETHING YOU AREN’T.
Stop trying to …Act Like a Lady, Think like a Man … records show this has a 100% Unsuccessful Rate… if you honestly think dating like a dude in relationships is healthy you’re sadly mistaken … If you are “like a dude" then u have severe emotional and relationship issues
JUST BE A LADY. MASTER YOUR FEMINISM, LEARN TO LIVE COMFORTABLY IN WHAT SHOULD BE NATURAL TO YOU.
In closing NO STRINGS ATTACHED (NSA) sounds nice… but EVERYONE WANTS STABILITY AND LOVE. Period.
P.S. TO THE LADY (LADIES) THAT READ THIS PLEASE REMEMBER
YOU ARE ROYAL AND BEAUTIFUL.